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Title: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: RJones555 on November 26, 2010, 02:30:12 pm
New to the forum.  Thinking of starting a support group for coin collectors wives. :)  Anyone interested?
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Randygeki(h2) on November 26, 2010, 02:44:40 pm
 ;D   made me think of an idea for a halmark card
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Danny S. Jones on November 26, 2010, 02:55:09 pm
nyuk, nyuk, nyuk... touché  ::)

Does this support group involve raising funds for your husband's habit? ;D
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Danny S. Jones on November 27, 2010, 11:18:27 am
Just FYI... that's my wife.  She registered on FORVM just to post that message. ::)
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Randygeki(h2) on November 27, 2010, 11:34:34 am
 ;D
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Mark Z on November 27, 2010, 05:53:34 pm
Just FYI... that's my wife.  She registered on FORVM just to post that message. ::)

Danny,

Apparently your wife is VERY passionate about her cause. That being the case, you better change the combo on the safe before you give her a reason to be upset with you, as she might just toss your collection into the trash! ;)

However, in the spirit of giving, I herewith offer a suggested title for your wife's support group:

CaSHING

(Can't Stand Husband's Incessant Numismatic Get-up-and-go)

mz
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: commodus on November 27, 2010, 11:19:24 pm
I would be curious to know how many wives of those who frequent these boards really take issue with their husbands' collecting. I suspect the majority are fairly neutral and I have little doubt that many are actively supportive (mine is, so there's at least one; surely there are many more). I know that some are certainly not so supportive, but are they really all that typical? Perhaps so, but somehow I doubt it.
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Mark Z on November 27, 2010, 11:36:26 pm
My coin collecting hobby seems to fall in the "tolerated" category with occasional feigned interest, and that, I'm sure, is due to the fact that I don't put any "household" money into it. I use the proceeds from my eBay store to fund my hobby, but I still get questioned from time to time regarding cost when a package shows up.

My daughter, however, is appreciative and is always interested to see the latest acquisition.

mz
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Danny S. Jones on November 28, 2010, 02:01:48 am
I would be curious to know how many wives of those who frequent these boards really take issue with their husbands' collecting. I suspect the majority are fairly neutral and I have little doubt that many are actively supportive (mine is, so there's at least one; surely there are many more). I know that some are certainly not so supportive, but are they really all that typical? Perhaps so, but somehow I doubt it.

Neutral seems to be a good word. She was just joking around. My wife actually pretends to be interested quite a bit. :)

...seems to fall in the "tolerated" category with occasional feigned interest

Isn't that the general attitude of wives and husbands anyway? ;)
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: slokind on November 28, 2010, 05:34:34 am
I'm glad she was joking.  I have noticed for a couple of decades now that, except for shop ladies and cleaning ladies, and genuine traditional wives of knights (in UK), we don't usually refer to ourselves, or appreciate our mates referring to us, as "ladies".  It's sort of like what protestant churches no longer call The Ladies' Aid...  Similarly, down here where I live it is the men who live in Angola that the press refer to as 'gentlemen', wherefore the members of Elks or Rotary, for example, or followers of NASCAR will have nothing to do with that appellation.  Female pilots in the USAF are no longer called the Ladies' Auxiliary...
Pat L.
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Maffeo on November 28, 2010, 05:38:26 am
How about a support group for the neglected husbands of lady numismatists?  ;D
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: rover1.3 on November 28, 2010, 05:59:24 am
I would be curious to know how many wives of those who frequent these boards really take issue with their husbands' collecting. I suspect the majority are fairly neutral and I have little doubt that many are actively supportive (mine is, so there's at least one; surely there are many more). I know that some are certainly not so supportive, but are they really all that typical? Perhaps so, but somehow I doubt it.

My wife never refers specificaly to coins when she says that i spend a lot of money on unnecessary things, because she remember the times i used to spend
money on other collectibles also... ;D
The only thing she always says about coins is that "they look much nicer in hand than in photographs."
That's her only comment.

EDIT I forgot to mention that she sometimes express the thought that all the coins out there are fakes.
She believes that all authentic ancient coins are in museums.
Every time i buy something i hand it her to "examine" it closely.. ;D
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Mark Z on November 28, 2010, 11:18:16 am
I would be curious to know how many wives of those who frequent these boards really take issue with their husbands' collecting. I suspect the majority are fairly neutral and I have little doubt that many are actively supportive (mine is, so there's at least one; surely there are many more). I know that some are certainly not so supportive, but are they really all that typical? Perhaps so, but somehow I doubt it.

Neutral seems to be a good word. She was just joking around. My wife actually pretends to be interested quite a bit. :)

...seems to fall in the "tolerated" category with occasional feigned interest

Isn't that the general attitude of wives and husbands anyway? ;)

Danny,

Yes, it was easy to tell that your wife was joking around, and I like that sort of spirit :)

Actually, if you've seen a picture of me then you'd know that my wife has to tolerate a lot more than an interest in coin collecting ;)

mz

p.s. Does she realize all the activity and response that her original post has generated?
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Danny S. Jones on November 28, 2010, 11:40:35 am
I'm glad she was joking.  I have noticed for a couple of decades now that, except for shop ladies and cleaning ladies, and genuine traditional wives of knights (in UK), we don't usually refer to ourselves, or appreciate out mates referring to us, as "ladies".  It's sort of like what protestant churches no longer call The Ladies' Aid...  Similarly, down here where I live it is the men who live in Angola that the press refer to as 'gentlemen', wherefore the members of Elks or Rotary, for example, or followers of NASCAR will have nothing to do with that appellation.  Female pilots in the USAF are no longer called the Ladies' Auxiliary...
Pat L.

What a strange world we live in, when a word meant as a compliment could be construed as something derogatory. It reminds me of a story I heard about a man who held open a door for a woman. He smiled as he listened to five minutes of how she would not tolerate being treated in such a manner, and she was perfectly capable of opening the door for herself. To this he retorted, "I didn't open the door for you because you're a lady. I opened the door for you because I am a gentleman."

With this, I mean no disrespect to any member of the female gender. Although, no matter what words I use, I seem to stay in trouble with the opposite sex, which is probably the reason for this entire thread in the first place. ::)
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Danny S. Jones on November 28, 2010, 11:48:52 am
p.s. Does she realize all the activity and response that her original post has generated?

She's a good sport, and is laughing her head off right now reading this.

BTW, rereading my last post, I just wanted to say to Pat that I hold you in the highest respect and hope you read that post in the lighthearted manner in which it was intended. I would consider you a lady in only the most complimentary way. Though that's a personal message, I think it should be said publicly.
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: apgrassman on November 29, 2010, 04:01:33 am
My Ex wife, had no interest at all, refering to my coins as discs that i put into a cabinet, just think what else that money could be spent on, so would assume that is partly why she is my EX:)

However my new partner does show some interest and as posted previously, i always show her my newest buy, she does show some enthusiasm and has even attended a coin fair!!!!

Regards

apgrassman
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: slokind on November 29, 2010, 04:18:23 pm
As a professor I've been called everything imaginable (and earlier as a teaching Sister, what I read about us on the restroom walls or heard over the partitions you might not even believe: Diderot would blush!).  I don't mind 'lady', though to be ladylike has largely been abandoned.  When I was young, in San Francisco ladies never went downtown in white gloves or white shoes (which were for garden parties) or without a hat.  As for not wearing any gloves downtown...!!!  I'd afraid we regarded such lapses as (gasp!) Midwestern.  As a student, I couldn't afford the proprieties, of course, or, for that matter, going to Tea at the St. Francis Hotel.  It was the Sixties that 'undid' such traditions.  Not just among Hippies.  Consider Maryknoll nuns in Nicaragua, for instance.
I hope that none of us abandoned meaningful courtesy, though.  I was what we called 'bohemian' and such I remain.  We don't mind what words people use for anything.  It's the thought that counts.  On the other hand, Paul was right that it isn't good Christianity to scandalize the weak or ignorant.  It isn't well bred to do that no matter what your beliefs are.
However, recent political correctness has often been inverse in its intents and effects.
Pat L.
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Arminius on November 29, 2010, 05:11:43 pm
They will investigate our expenditures for coins.
They will calculate, how much shoes they may have got for the money.
They will investigate, how much time we spend on our coins and how much we tease the metal and take care for coins.
They will calculate, how often we together with them could have bought shoes and fashion clothes during this time.
They will contact lawyers …

HELP !!!!

Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: KMK on November 29, 2010, 10:10:01 pm
How about a support group for women who collect coins and whose husbands could care less?  And btw, I prefer "Dr." and I make my own money, thank you very much.

KMK
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: El Reye on November 30, 2010, 12:27:49 am
Why don't we combine the two groups and just call them " Numismatically Challenged Spouses"

Cameron
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: ancientone on December 03, 2010, 09:48:13 pm
My coin collecting hobby seems to fall in the "tolerated" category with occasional feigned interest, and that, I'm sure, is due to the fact that I don't put any "household" money into it. I use the proceeds from my eBay store to fund my hobby, but I still get questioned from time to time regarding cost when a package shows up.

My daughter, however, is appreciative and is always interested to see the latest acquisition.

mz

Mark Z2,  Ditto right down to the daughter!
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Mark Z on December 03, 2010, 11:58:05 pm
My coin collecting hobby seems to fall in the "tolerated" category with occasional feigned interest, and that, I'm sure, is due to the fact that I don't put any "household" money into it. I use the proceeds from my eBay store to fund my hobby, but I still get questioned from time to time regarding cost when a package shows up.

My daughter, however, is appreciative and is always interested to see the latest acquisition.

mz

Mark Z2,  Ditto right down to the daughter!

I knew I was not alone :D

mz
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: museumguy on December 04, 2010, 08:34:44 am
Mark, you are certainly not alone.  My wife thinks it's a bit weird to be collecting ancient coins but tolerates it.  You get a nice coin and want to share it with your spouse or kids and then you stop and say, "hmmm, maybe I'd better post it on FORVM instead where it will be better appreciated"!!  As for Pat L's comment about ladies' organizations - two of the most prominent in the museum field are the Ladies' Hermitage Association (The Hermitage:  Home of President Andrew Jackson in Tennessee) and the Mount Vernon Ladies' Association (George Washington's Mount Vernon in Virginia).  Although the names may be antiquated both organizations are responsible for saving two of America's most important historic sites.  And knowing these groups I doubt they will be revising their names any time soon.

Steve
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Bacchus on December 04, 2010, 12:59:29 pm
My wife doesn't really comment on my coins.  She doesn't say it, but I can see her judging each new aquisition against potential shoes that could have been bought.
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: museumguy on December 04, 2010, 03:53:19 pm
Bacchus, do you mean "penny" loafers??  Ha!!

Steve
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: Jaimelai on December 04, 2010, 08:33:17 pm
Only lipstick and makeup here, but eventually hopefully it will be lost shoe purchase opportunities!
Title: Re: to the ladies of coin collector husbands
Post by: El Reye on December 06, 2010, 03:56:33 pm
Well, I guess I'm just blessed, my wife is of the opinion, that at least I enjoy a hobby that will retain a majority of its value in the long term as compared to some hobbies, such as model railroading, or remote controlled model airplanes.

Cameron